Rebeccah Silence Sheds Light on Emotional Health Recovery
As the world faces the fallout from experiencing a global health crisis, it’s common to feel that we are in uncharted territory.
For many people, there have been major health issues to overcome, and then, there is the deeper level of emotional healing.
The pandemic has resulted in unprecedented levels of trauma, and for the most part, there has been little guidance on how to actually recover from the unprecedented mental, physical and emotional stress.
We sat down with one of America’s top emotional health and relationship coaches to get insight into how to move forward and heal in a post-pandemic era.
Rebeccah Silence is a popular media personality and highly sought-after emotional healing expert. She is the author of “Coming Back to Life” and is renowned for her ability to help people move through difficult emotions, such as fear, shame and anxiety; and she guides them in healing trauma—both past and present.
Rebeccah offers a combination of creative and healing modalities to address the underlying causes of emotional distress. She is dedicated to helping her students and clients discover the power of their authentic selves and to live more fully in alignment with their goals and desires.
The Path for Trauma Recovery
Emotional healing can be a daunting process. It does not occur overnight and often requires open and honest communication, support and understanding from those around us.
The first step is acknowledging the trauma, the next step is empowerment, and the final step is ongoing awareness.
Some may feel like they need to punish themselves, or run away from their problems constantly, but according to Rebeccah, healing isn’t about being in a constant state of crisis or running away—it’s about embracing your true self.
Rebeccah says, “Be who YOU want to be, no matter what. I don’t believe that we need to be in this constant state of perma-crisis as individuals or as a collective. We can decide what we want and who we would need to be to create that outcome. Then, we must work on healing the wounds, traumas, patterns, beliefs, stories and ways of coping that are misaligned with who we want to be in life. When we do this, we actually get the result that we want.”
According to Rebeccah, it’s never going to be that we just wake up one day and find ourselves and know who we are.
“Healing is a process of discovery as much as it is remembering,” she says.
“Remembering the truth of who you are has a lot to do with deciding and committing to the life you want and who you would need to be to design and experience that life and reality. This is your birthright.”
Dangers of Toxic Positivity
Rebeccah Silence teaches people about healing through their survival, personality and through their past. Her approach is realistic and honest.
“I always start with what’s possible, and I am not about positivity or toxic positivity.”
The issue with some modern mindset and wellness coaches is what some call “toxic positivity,” which Rebeccah says can be harmful. Toxic positivity is a term that came out of the mental health community, referring to the belief that it is always necessary to be positive, even when faced with difficult situations.
This belief system rejects emotions, such as sadness, fear, anger and disappointment. The attitude of always having to maintain an overly positive outlook can be damaging because it leads to invalidation and suppression of genuine emotions. This can create a false sense of security, and, ultimately, it suppresses essential conversations about mental health.
She adds, “To those who are struggling right now, you need to understand that no one is immune to trauma. This means it is ok for anyone to experience it. And you are absolutely not alone.”
While toxic positivity may sound unfamiliar to some, you have probably heard about toxic masculinity. It’s a similar idea that is rooted in denying the foundation of our emotions and essence.
Because toxic positivity denies our trauma, according to Rebeccah, this also denies our humanity.
Acknowledgment: The Catalyst for Empowerment
Rebeccah shares that once we first recognize and accept our trauma, the next step is about realizing what that means as a survivor—and then using that experience as a catalyst for empowerment and the possibility of life beyond survival.
“I would also say to anyone who is struggling that you are more powerful than anything that you have survived. And you are more than powerful enough to create a life that is no longer a constant reaction to the traumas and the heartbreaks that you’ve survived—or the pain that you’ve been through emotionally.”
“I’m working to change the false narrative that trauma means loss of life or less of a life. Emotions prove you are alive and real.”
Don’t Resist the Emotions
You have emotions because you’re human and because you’re alive.
You can be happy when you don’t resist anger, fear, grief, joy or excitement. Allow them to show up like the weather.
Rebeccah Silence teaches her students and clients that emotions aren’t a sign that something is wrong. “Being highly sensitive and being emotional, it’s not a bad or wrong thing.”
The emotional healing process involves many steps, such as recognizing and accepting feelings, developing healthy coping mechanisms, and learning to recognize and respond to triggers. It also involves reconnecting with our inner selves to restore balance and harmony. With the proper guidance and support, emotional healing can lead to inner peace, self-love and joy.
Rebeccah says the secret to emotional healing and growth is simple:
“Be who you want to be, honestly, unapologetically and emotionally.”
If you or anyone you love is seeking guidance with this process of emotional healing, Rebeccah provides incredible support in her new book, “Coming Back to Life,” and through her comprehensive seven-part online “Emotional Survival Kit” course that caters to individuals and couples looking to dive into their internal healing or move past trauma.